This week over at the My Heart Speaks Facebook Fan Page we’re talking about self-love which is defined as the instinct or desire to promote one’s own well-being or to further one’s own interest; a feeling of self-respect and the knowledge of personal worth. This sounds easy but in reality it’s not for a lot of women and girls. Many struggle with the concept of loving themselves as if they are not worthy of their own love. I personally still battle loving myself the way I know I can, but I’m better than I use to be and I know that I still have work to do.
I struggled the most in my teen and early adult years with self-love because I didn’t have that knowledge of personal worth as a result of low self-esteem. I’d been sexually abused and raped more than once so I didn’t regard myself as worthy of anything good. Instead I poured “love” into boys and men and further took myself away from my own love; I victimized myself.
Recently, like in the last two years, I’ve begun a “Loving Larie Campaign” that started when I read Genesis 1:26-27. In this passage we are told that God created us in His image and I thought to myself, “Well there’s nothing unlovable or unworthy about God and since I was created in His image then there’s nothing unlovable or unworthy about me!” When I feel myself slipping out of self-love I remind myself of this.
You can read more in detail about my lack of self-love, self-esteem, and self-worth and how I carried it over into my adult life and into marriage in my second book titled, My Heart Speaks...of Boys and a Girl.